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Phoebe Tully's avatar

I was always told to be “both interested and interesting” - love that phrase, and what you’ve captured here!

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

I love that — that saying really encapsulates what I was talking about it. Thanks for sharing 😊

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john smith's avatar

So glad I downloaded substack

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Charlie's avatar

…the elements of attractiveness graciously offered here are superb and worthy of my attention, and at this point in my life, are practices that engender self respect (me liking myself) and an expression of gratitude for the gift of human existence – thank you for the inspiration

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Paolo Peralta's avatar

To be immersed in life and to be confident enough to be as weird as possible to add vibrancy to the planet and keep the interest compounding for as long as we breathe.

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Anfisa Nikitina's avatar

So true. Especially about the hobbies, that’s what makes you YOU.

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

Yes exactly!!

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kaja jean's avatar

100%. a red flag if someone has no hobbies🥲

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Anfisa Nikitina's avatar

Learned it the hard way

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maria's avatar

Loved this!

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

Thank you!!

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Juliana Bernal V.'s avatar

Great read, save to be able to reference it! I am absolutely with you. Looks are very important and we don’t even have to discuss that. But real attraction the one that last is so much more and all you explore is very interesting

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

Yes! I think this is something we also tend to learn as we get older and wiser. Looks are only a fraction of the equation

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Judith's avatar

Thank you so much for this amazing piece! 👏🏽🫶🏾

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

Thank you! 😊

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sinds's avatar

amazing piece

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

Thank you!

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Nushen Baihe's avatar

A very simple but impactful write up on being the ‘attraction’! A lot of people wonder about how they can be more attractive and almost all the advice is rubbish, you’ve got things in your list that are do-able and real and yes they work!

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

Yes exactly! Happy you enjoyed 🤍

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Kenzie's avatar

beautiful piece

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

Thank you 🫶🏼

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anya chrestella azalia's avatar

such a beautiful read!

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

Thank you so much!

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Tony's avatar

Bisous (en canadien)

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Alicia's avatar

Attraction is incredibly nuanced and complex. I have been attracted to people I never thought I would be and I go through phases on what and whom I find attractive.

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Kodawari's avatar

Beautifully written!

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Gabrielle Dubois Meloff's avatar

Thank you so much!

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Henry Anschutz's avatar

Validate yourself first, and other people will naturally like you.

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